10 Important Areas to Ask Your Partner Questions Before You Marry Them

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Hello friends! Welcome back to my blog, and thanks for stopping by. Hope you had a great week. 

Today, I want to discuss 10 important areas to ask your partner questions on before you marry them. 

We know marriage is essential and it’s God’s will for His children to be happily married and fulfilled. But before taking the big step of marriage, it's important to have an open and honest discussion with your partner about some key areas of your future life together. 

This discussion will help ensure you are both on the same page and have a strong foundation for a successful marriage.

Here are some of the areas -

1. Purpose

I started with this because it’s very important. It's essential to understand each other's life goals and purpose; and what will make you both happy and fulfilled. Ask questions about your partner's dreams, passions, and long-term plans. How do they envision their life and what role do they see you playing in it?

2. Finance

Money matters can be a major source of issues in marriage. Discuss your financial situations, spending habits, savings, and attitudes towards money. How do you plan to manage your finances together and make important financial decisions? Also discuss about the issue of common purse and prenup.

3. Kids

Understand each other's views on having children. Do you both want kids? If yes, how many and when? What parenting styles do you envision adopting for your children? And in case there are no children, will you be willing to adopt or engage in other means of parenthood?

4. Emotional Health

Mental and emotional well-being is crucial. Discuss how you both handle your emotions, what makes you angry, happy, sad, irritated and so on. Also, discuss the issue of stress, conflicts, and emotional imbalance. How do you support each other in tough times?

5. Spirituality and Beliefs 

This is an extremely important area and it must be discussed extensively. Ask your partner about their spiritual beliefs and values. How do these beliefs impact their life and decisions? How do they envision incorporating those beliefs into your marital life?

6. Extended Families

Family dynamics can play a significant role. Discuss how you plan to balance your relationship with your extended families. Discuss potential challenges that might arise. Also, discuss the role your parents and relatives will play in your marriage.

7. Work and Career

Career goals and expectations can affect your lifestyle and time together. How do you both view your work and careers, and the potential changes they might undergo over time? Know who is more career-oriented and how much you are willing to sacrifice to support your partner in their career/professional pursuits.

8. Sex

This is also another important area to discuss. We have seen how issues about sex caused problems in marriage. Have an open and sincere discussion about your sexual expectations and desires. Discuss your needs, wants, and any concerns you may have. Also, get to know your partner’s health state concerning fertility and conception before marriage.

9. Individual Roles in the Family

Clearly define each person's role and responsibilities in the marriage. How will you manage house chores, decision-making, and supporting each other's responsibilities? Also, the issue of taking care of the kids and having a housemaid. Discuss all of that. 

10. Past Relationships

The last but not the least, is the area of past relationships. While the past shouldn't define your future, it's important to discuss it and find any lessons learned. Ask your partner how their experiences have shaped their outlook on love and commitment? And ask if they've had any emotional trauma in the past and if they are willing to forgive those who have offended them in the past.

All of these and more are crucial questions I believe must be asked and discussed extensively with your partner before you marry them. These questions will ensure you have a good foundation and a united voice that will foster a happy marriage. I pray the Lord will guide you and lead you to make the right choice that will lead to a glorious marriage.

Have a blissful weekend and God bless you!

To read the previous article, please click on this link: How I Choose My Friends

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