Abiola Olojo's Blog

  Healthy relationships are built on mutual care. They may not always be balanced in effort or resources, but they are guided by respect and consideration. At different times, one person may give more than the other, and that is part of life. What matters is the shared understanding that both people are committed to each other’s well being, not just to what they can receive. Some people grow used to receiving all their lives. Even when it is convenient for them to give, they find ways to remain on the receiving end. Over time, this habit shapes how others see them. The world is quick to label, and people begin to withdraw. Gradually, such individuals become isolated, not always by intention, but by reputation. When they truly need help, it becomes difficult for others to tell the difference. Their need is often mistaken for greed, because that is all that has been seen before. This pattern reflects what parasitic relationships often produce. Constant taking, without appreciation or...

  I once met an elderly man who had lost almost everything. Career gone. Friends scattered. Health not as strong as before. Yet he spoke with calm, not bitterness. When I asked how he stayed steady, he said, “I stopped arguing with what life already decided. I focused on what was still in my hands.” That simple line stayed with me. It is the quiet power behind a meaningful life. Living a meaningful life is not about having everything go your way. It is about knowing what truly matters and standing firm within it. This is where Stoicism speaks clearly. The Stoics taught that life becomes lighter when we separate what we can control from what we cannot. Our thoughts, actions, and values are ours. Events, opinions, and outcomes are not. Peace begins the moment we accept this truth. Many people who shaped history lived by this principle, whether they named it or not. Leaders, builders, innovators. Nations that progressed learned discipline, responsibility, patience, and long-term think...

  The beginning of a year carries a quiet responsibility. We don't have to be perfect, nor have everything figured out, but to be intentional. I have learned that starting well is rarely about big announcements or dramatic resolutions. More often, it is about small, honest decisions that slowly align our values with how we live. Looking back at last year, I realize how much we talked, reflected, and learned together. I learned a lot by writing to you, and I believe many of those lessons were shared simply through reading, thinking, and questioning. Growth, I have come to understand, does not always make noise. Sometimes it begins quietly, with clarity, knowing what to keep, what to let go of, and what to approach differently. Starting well means choosing discipline over drama, purpose over pressure, and consistency over excitement. It means giving ourselves grace to learn, room to adjust, and the courage to act even when the path is not fully clear. As the days unfold, my hope is t...

Happy weekend, my dear friend. I hope you had a wonderful Christmas celebration. As the year draws to a close, we pause, not to dwell on what went wrong, but to honor how far we’ve come. This year carried lessons we didn’t plan for, delays we didn’t expect, and victories we may not have celebrated enough. Yet, here we are. Still standing. Still learning. Still growing. Ending well is not about perfection. It is about reflection, gratitude, and the courage to acknowledge both progress and pain. Ending well means taking stock with honesty. What did this year teach us about patience, resilience, faith, and discipline? What habits served us, and which ones held us back? Some goals were achieved. Others were deferred. Some were completely redefined. None of that is failure. It is life refining us, shaping our perspective, and preparing us for better decisions ahead. Starting better begins with intention. The coming year does not need grand resolutions. It needs clarity, consistency, and com...

 Christmas reminds us that hope is never lost, no matter how long the journey has been. In a year filled with lessons, challenges, and quiet victories, this season invites us to pause, reflect, and remember that light often arrives when the night feels longest. It is a time to be grateful for how far we’ve come, for the strength we found when we thought we had none, and for the people who stood with us along the way. Christmas teaches us that love is not loud; it is consistent, sacrificial, and powerful enough to renew our faith in tomorrow. As we celebrate, may we carry the true meaning of Christmas beyond the festivities, choosing kindness over bitterness, gratitude over complaints, and hope over fear. Let this season realign our hearts to what truly matters and prepare us for a new beginning. May the peace of Christmas fill your heart, the joy of the season brighten your days, and the hope it brings guide you into a beautiful and fulfilling new year. Merry Christmas

Happy weekend my dear friend, I hope  preparation for Christmas is going well. As the year rounds up, it's important that we count our blessings. In a world that constantly draws our attention to what is missing, choosing to focus on what we have becomes a deliberate act of gratitude. Counting our blessings is not about denying challenges, it is about recognizing that even in the midst of struggles, there has always been light. When we pause to look back, we realise how far we have come, how many silent battles we survived, and how many doors opened in ways we never imagined. Personally, I have learned that growth is deeply connected to gratitude. Each phase of my life has taught me that appreciation attracts clarity, strength, and progress. I have grown by acknowledging small wins, unseen help, lessons from failures, and the grace that carried me through moments I never thought I would overcome. Gratitude has shaped my mindset, kept me grounded, and reminded me that every step for...

  Happy new week, my dear friend. As the year draws to a close, this is a moment to pause and reflect on the journey of the past months. The year came with its own expectations, challenges, lessons, and victories. Some prayers were answered clearly, some in ways we didn’t expect, and some are still unfolding. There were plans we accomplished and others we had to let go of. Along the way, we learned patience, resilience, and trust in the process. The year taught us that growth doesn’t always happen loudly, but it always happens purposefully. Looking back reminds us of the grace that carried us through moments of uncertainty, the strength we found in difficult seasons, and the lessons hidden in both success and setbacks. Even the days that felt unproductive played their role in shaping us. As we reflect on the year, we do so with gratitude and clarity. We take the lessons forward, release the regrets behind us, and step into the coming year wiser, thankful, and more intentional. Than...

Happy new month, my dear friend. As we approach the end of the year, I feel it time for reflection. There’s something powerful about looking back and realizing how far God has carried us. Not by our strength, not by our wisdom, but by His grace that never sleeps. The journey hasn’t been perfect, but His presence has been consistent. Even in the moments when we didn’t know what was ahead, God already knew the path, and He kept us steady. When we thank God for the journey, we’re not just celebrating the big victories; we’re acknowledging the quiet mercies that held us together. The days we didn’t think we could stand, but still stood. The prayers we whispered, and the answers that came in ways we didn’t expect. The lessons wrapped inside difficulties that ended up shaping us for the better. Every step, every delay, every breakthrough, and every closed door had its purpose. God didn’t just guide our steps; He guided our growth. And as we reflect, we see that nothing was wasted, not the jo...

  Happy weekend my dear friend, I hope you had a very beautiful Thanksgiving celebration. Today we talk about the last topic of the month. In the Bible, Esau traded his birthright for a single meal, a decision that has echoed through generations as a warning. He sacrificed something priceless for something temporary. That story teaches us a timeless truth: not every sacrifice is noble, and not every loss is a sign of strength. Some sacrifices shrink us, weaken us, or blind us to our own future. Wisdom is knowing what to give up, and what never to let go of. There are sacrifices that look harmless in the moment but cost us more than we realize. When we sacrifice our values for acceptance, we lose our identity. When we sacrifice our integrity for quick gains, we lose our credibility. When we sacrifice our mental peace for relationships that drain us, we lose our direction. Life will always demand something, but we must never lose ourselves in the process. Many young people think sacr...