The Fear of Rejection

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Hello friends, welcome back! Hope your week has been wonderful. Today, I want to continue with the discussion on types of fear. I will focus on the fear of rejection.

The fear of rejection is the fear we experience when we are being isolated, abandoned or rejected by people close to us for whatever reason. For me, just thinking about children who have no parents or who were being thrown out on the streets always touch my heart and make me shed tears. I imagine the level of fear of rejection such kids would have. 

For some of them, if they would just find someone who will take care of them, and give them a good life, they would be so happy and never want to leave that person. They could have fear of losing that person or the opportunity they have. And they could also have fear of not being accepted by other people or their ideas or opinions being appreciated.

Sometimes as adults, we also experience fear of rejection. Maybe we have an opinion or idea that is different from others, we would like to keep them to ourselves, and not bother anyone. While on a normal day we would have loved to share those ideas. 

But because of fear of rejection and what people would say, we would sweep our ideas under the carpet and pretend as if we are enjoying all what is going on. The fear of rejection could also make us compromise or lower our standards just because we want to please other people. 

While it’s not a bad idea to receive other people’s ideas and opinions, it is not nice if we don't trust our own self and what we stand for. Everyone of us is important. And it’s very crucial to stand on our own opinions and ideology based on what we believe and personally convinced about. 

So, there’s no need to give up on our ideas or beliefs just because we want to please other people. Instead, we should be comfortable sharing our own opinions and ideas, while we create room for learning and growth. 

The fear of rejection could also be seen in relationships and marriage. When a partner, because of the experience they’ve had in the past always think of being rejected or not being accepted by their current partner. 

They have concerns about what kind of person they are to them. They could keep on enduring and sacrificing for their relationship while their life and peace of mind is in danger. 

The fear of rejection could also debar one from making progress and achieve success in life. Like sometimes, one could fear asking people for things because of fear of rejection. 

And one could also end up not fulfilling their dreams and purpose because there is someone somewhere that one is afraid of being rejected from.

Though this fear could come in a subtle way, its influence should not be underestimated. We should focus on our purpose and life, and appreciate the people God has put around us. 

No need to fear rejection because at anytime it could come. But our understanding of how to handle it and learn from it will make us to always triumph and win at life. 

Have a blessed week! 

To read the previous article, please click on this link: https://abiolagold.blogspot.com/2022/09/the-fear-of-failure.html

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