How to Handle Emotional Pains

Hello friends! Welcome back. It’s already a week since my last post. Thank God for life and good health. And thank you for sticking around. 

Today, I want to discuss something about how to handle emotional pains. Emotional pains are pains that stem from being hurt emotionally. It can be due to loss, disappointment, trauma or toxic relationship. The pain is usually disturbing and disorientating. When one is going through this pain, no other thing matters. It is mentally-challenging and excruciating. 

Sometimes, this emotional pain is inevitable, going through different circumstances and situations that we can’t control in life. However, our ability to handle the pain and come out of it is what guarantees a successful life.

I remember the early days when I was mourning the demise of my husband, I was in deep emotional pains and fear. I felt God has disappointed me and everything has turned against me. Even though I couldn’t fight God or blame him, I felt offended and pained. I struggled and went into depression. And I was crying every day and night. I couldn’t see hope of any future.

My children too were also pained and went through different moments of mourning. Everything came to a standstill and I thought all is lost.

Meanwhile, going through emotional pain has not been an easy one. Every part of your body will feel the pain and your head will be pounding. You will be thinking of what has happened and the difficulties you have to go through. 

I can say it is one of the hardest pains that no one would ever want to go through. But if one has this pain, how can one handle it and what exactly can one do?

Let’s take a look at few points that can allow you to handle these emotional pains.

First of all, let the pains out. At the very early stage when the pain is still fresh, there is nothing else that matters except letting the pains out. It means you allow yourself to be free with your emotions. Not holding anything back. If you need to cry at this point, cry! 

If you need to scream, scream! If you need to mourn, mourn! If you even need to express yourself in words, please go ahead. All these are important for healing. 

At this very stage, the brain doesn’t recognize anything logic or reason. So, the idea of bringing logic into the situation might not work. What the brain is dealing with at the moment is emotional pain which is simply not logical. So, while trying to heal through the early stage, don’t give yourself to too much logic or finding the cause of the problem or who to blame.

Handling emotional pain is not that easy. People who go through it know how difficult it is. 

If someone you know is going through this pain, please at this early stage, don’t offer them any advice or words of encouragement. That can come much later but not at the moment when they are still grieving their loved one or the disappointment they have in their life. 

It’s better to be by them, listen to them, and support them. If they ask for your opinion on anything, say what you know and keep supporting them. That will go a long way and make them feel much better.

Other things that can be done are to give them assistance with doing house chores and other tasks that they might be involved in. You can also be calling them regularly to check on them and be a good friend. 

You can have some time together and share memories. You can also go for lunch, take a walk, do some sports, or engage in volunteering activities.

You can basically find what you love and start doing it. That can help you ease the pain and relax your mind. Healing through emotional pains takes time and what you do help the healing process.

I see you coming out of the pains better and stronger. The Lord will heal all your wounds and make His face shine upon you. God bless you and have a great week.

To read the previous article, please click on this link: https://abiolagold.blogspot.com/2022/10/10-ways-to-enjoy-your-relationship.html